Response: What It Means To Be A Black Female Introvert

I recently read an article by Valarie Stephens, self-proclaimed introvert. In her article, she described herself as an introvert that happened to be black, and that is how I would describe myself. I am an introvert that is black. Often times I feel like being a black female overshadows my actual personality. It’s shallow that people cannot look past my skin, and get to know ME.

Black women have the worst stereotypes out of any race. We are over-sexualized in music videos or dismissed as loud mouth baby mama. There is no in between. It saddens me that people find me strange or unique for acting the way I do. I know for a fact there are many black and minority women out there like me. We like coffee, Kawaii things, pop music and being alone.

I hope this doesn’t get dusted under the rug. If it does I want to say, I here weird and never going to change.

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Why I’ll Never Delete My Tumblr

delete.pngWhen I look at my Tumblr I see beauty. I see pure artistic expression. Instagram is nice but lacks the artist niche. I’ll give Instagram a break because it is a fairly new platform but the pictures of your breast and butt aren’t “curves” girl. It’s just you being thirsty.

I find myself scrolling aimlessly through my Tumblr looking at all the beautiful photos I have collected. It’s like a never-ending gallery wall. I have pictures of Indian weddings, flowers, afros and fearless girl quotes.

I’ve had a Tumblr since I was in high school. I tried to keep up with it but like anything, life got in the way. I still update it from time to time but I cannot bring myself to delete it. Even if I’m not actively participating in the community I enjoy what it’s putting out.

Well I think that ends my little rant about Tumblr.

What’s on your Tumblr wall leave a comment below.

Why Scorpios Are My Only Friends

I have had many friends in my life. But none have stuck around like the Scorpio. My best friend in high school was ‘Marq,’ was a Scorpio and we did everything together, chorus, classes, everything. He was everything I wasn’t outspoken, headstrong and a great dancer. I feel like I become friends with people that have something I lack. At that time it was confidence.

He is a Scorpio and I am a Sagittarius, technically we are zodiac neighbors but different. He always tried to get me to come out of my shell. But that was something I needed to do myself. Every time I go back home it’s like we never stopped being friends. He always says “Girl you’re still crazy.”

I tend to date Scorpios and befriend them. People may be put off by their intensity but being the fire sign, I don’t shy away from a challenge. When you get to know a Scorpio and they trust you, you have an everlasting friend. As lovers, I haven’t found anyone more interesting than the Scorpio. I know he’s doing well and I’m proud of all my friends for their accomplishments.

What do you guys think? Do you believe in zodiac signs? Leave a comment below.

Summer of Classic Films

This summer I wanted to watch classic films. The reason is, I have always been attracted to black and white films. I remember in school watching Twilight Zone when the teacher’s wanted a break. It intrigued me when I was young. The black and white shows offered a lesson. A twist you’d didn’t see coming or a slow build up to a passionate kiss.

Metropolis

This was the last film I watched before I started classes. To explain it briefly Metropolis is about a creator, his son and a girl. The boy, Fredor is the son of  Joh Fredersen, the master of Metropolis. He grows up rich and naive. One day when prancing about with loose girls, Maria comes with the worker’s children and points to Fredor and says ‘he is your brother.’ She exclaims we are all brothers. Freder was taken by the beauty of Maria and leaves his pampered life to search for her. Workers live underground and work10-hour days. The wealthy live in Metropolis. It was the first silent films I’ve watched and I thoroughly enjoyed it.

The movie had a slide that fills the viewer in on what was said. I found myself filling in the words anyway. The expressions were so grand, almost cartoonish.There’s a scene when Maria was running away from the scientist, it was so dramatic, I thought she was going to pass out from all the shaking she did. I laughed. It’s interesting to see how people think of the future and our relation with technology. The idea is still the same, people fear technology.

 

 

Heaven Can Wait

If I choose to watch a classic film, I prefer to watch this genre.  This movie is about Henry, a bachelor…. you can say. He a charming rich, young man with a history of mischevious behavior and nothing would make his parents happier than for him to marry. While strolling through downtown he spots a beautiful girl, Martha. Martha and Henry have a lifetime adventure together.

When watching the film I sympathized with Albert. Albert was originally engaged to Martha, a bit nerdy, he lost Martha to Henry. I have a problem with people taking things. Henry swoops Martha into his arms and they elope. Henry was hot, even in black and white, I see why Martha was taken by him.My favorite line in the movie is when Martha says she has Henry now that he has a tummy. She doesn’t need to worry about losing him to other women. It’s a cute, lighthearted film. I recommend it.

Nights of Cabiria

A prostitute searches for love in the streets of Rome. She hopes for a life away from the nightlife. Every man she falls for runs and takes her money. The movie opens up with Cabiria nearly drowning from her boyfriend pushing her into the river. Cabiria didn’t know how to swim and the pedestrians didn’t know how to do CPR. You see the man holding her upside down and shaking her. One day she hangs with her friends and they go to a service. The Virgin Mary is in front of Cabiria as she pleads for a different life. After the service, she freaks out and leaves her friends. She leaves sure that her prayer will be heard.

I am attracted to Cabiria and her story because you don’t want to give up on love. You can’t give up on wanting a better life. The only person that can make a change in your life is you. Cabiria was hurt so many times and by people that pretended to love her. The worst kind of feeling is to be hurt by someone you love. I teared up when she handed her boyfriend the money and told him to kill her. Essentially she had given up.

I really enjoyed this project. I’ll do more of these in the future.

What do you guys think? Leave a comment below.

School has started, and now summer has ended. I made a list of things I wanted to do this summer and I’ve completed some and forgot others.

 

 

Travel

The BEST thing you can do with you time and money.

I’m proud of myself for taking the first step of solo travel. Although we

live in the most progressive time, solo women travels are discouraged.

It is the fear that women are too delicate or they could be abducted if they

travel alone. I’m not saying throw caution to the wind but don’t let fear stop

you.

Vintage Movie Marathon

This was a weird goal of mine to watch old black and white movies

this summer. I’ll write a post about what movies I watched and what I

thought of them.

 

Learn Something New

Growing up I never really had a break from

school. I was always learning something with

tutors or workbooks. So now that I’m older I love

learning. Over the summer I took a couple of online

SEO classes and writing classes. I learned a lot for free!

The things I didn’t get to do were traveling to Spain. I really want to

go to Spain or South America. I have been practicing my conversational

Spanish and  the only way to master a language is to use it? Derecha?

But who knows what the future will hold?

Comment below what you guys did this summer?

The Hunger Games Guide to the Eclipse

Today a few lucky cities will witness the Eclipse. Redmond, Knoxville, and Charleston.

I have composed a Hunger Games guide to surviving the Eclipse.

 

 

 

 

Tip #1

Limit Driving and Commuting During the Eclipse


With visitors coming from all over to witness the

eclipse driving and normal everyday activities will

be difficult. Visibility will be somewhat limited,imagine

a cloudy day when it’s overcast.

Everyone should be cautious of the sudden change and

hold off on any activities until it is clear

 

Tip #2

No Selfies Please

The great Neil deGrasse has said

“Don’t film the Eclipse, experience it.”

It has been verified by NASA that using

your camera or phone may damage the lens

unless you have a UV protectant to cover it.

Nor can you view the eclipse through your

phone.

 

Tip #3

Protect Your Eyes

The most important organ by far.  If you

decide to view the event make sure you

protect and cover your eyes. The solar

glasses are probably sold out everywhere,

but if you can snag a pair from a friend or

go to a viewing party that provides

them you’ll be covered.

How will you view the Eclipse. Comment down below.

Rihanna’s Comeback

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I am a huge fan of Rihanna, for many reasons. I feel like Rihanna has the best celebrity come back IN THE HISTORY of celebrity comebacks. I’m not talking about popularity. I mean comeback from the tragic incident between her and her ex Chris Brown.
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I’m not a huge celebrity gossip fan or interested in gossip in general but Rihanna I adore.

 

When I heard she was in a violent relationship with Chris Brown it saddened me. She’s so beautiful and talented, how could that happen to her? How could that happen to anyone. Domestic violence is a real issue, many women don’t walk away from. It’s tragic to say that Rihanna was lucky to walk away with just bruises. No one deserves that ever!

 

Rihanna went dark for a couple of years with Good Girl Gone Bad and Rated R. 

She needed to break down to repair herself. Who are you after something like that? Going dark was her way of coping. It took a couple a years for her to find herself again. She was no longer the

sexy island girl but a unstoppable pop icon that doesn’t give a f**k.

I admire her for that. You can follow her on Instagram and see her as an loving aunt to a fashion icon. I love how she can go from a punk-rocker with green hair to a pink princess on the red carpet. I admire her for her strength in her sexuality. Her ability to love again and her overall love for her fans.

Two-Year Anniversary Of thebarefootqueen

Two years ago this month I was inspired to start this blog. While it has a long way to go, I’m happy to say I’m very proud of it. This month Google renewed my blog name thebarefootqueen.com.

I don’t know what it is about sentimental moments but I don’t realize how how magical they were until it’s over.  Let me start from the beginning…

Why thebarefootqueen Name?

I image thebarefootqueen as a loving, free spirited leader. She has a bohemian style and

flowers in her hair. She sleeps by the sun and lives by the moon. She fearless yet vulnerable, because vulnerability is strength. She is the embodiment of  who I want to be.

What Will Happen Over the Next  Two Years?

The next two years you guys are going to see a lot more of me. I plan on starting a YouTube channel and doing vlog, GRWM, OOTD, travel videos are much more. I find myself happiest when I am creating. I remember taking a drawing 101 class in college and everyday I was excited to go. I feel the same way when posting.

Where Do We Fit In?

You guys are important to me. While we are a small  group, we are a strong group. I can truly say I’ve gotten nothing but positivity and inspiration from you guys. I hope to grow our group and get a conversation going. I enjoy hearing feedback, comments, praise, so lets start chatting!

2017 New Year’s Resolution: Revisit

Hey everyone! This is a quick check-in on OUR New Year’s resolutions.

We are passing the 6-month mark and now it’s game time. If you haven’t

kept up with your goals it’s not too late!

1. Reevaluate Your Failures

I never look at failures as failures. To be successful you must look

at failures as lessons. In those lessons you can reevaluate you goals.

For example:

January apply for Study Abroad Scholarships–Completed but did not receive the scholarship instead I went to NYC


February: Update Portfolio–Somewhat, I post quick sketches on my Instagram

March: Write everyday– Somewhat, I have kept up with my blog MW. Thank you for reading every week!

2. Set New Goals

It is important to forgive yourself. It’s only failure when you quit completely. Setting new goals can make your New Year’s Resolutions feel fresh. Posting your resolution somewhere where

you can see it everyday can also help. By looking at your goal everyday you subconciously 

set the path to your goal.

July: Get Certification

August: Post First YouTube Video

September: Interview for Out-of-State Jobs

3. Deadlines, Deadlines, Deadlines.

There’s no anchor to keeping your goal unless you have a

deadline. A deadline give you a finishline to visualize. I set a couple of goals each month and

the end of the month is the deadline. Some goals can take a week, or 3 months but set a date.

4. Remember Your Mission

Your mission is what you consider to be your life’s purpose. Your goals should always be in

alignment with your mission. If you haven’t already, sit down and write a sentence, no more than three about what your purpose is here. Below I have listed mine;

My mission is  to live and work creatively in art, fashion, film making, teaching, and philanthropy.

5.  Visualize the End Result

Lastly visualize you have already achieved your goal. It will help you when you

don’t feel like working out that day, or make excuses for not completing your

goal. Imagine the end so you can increase your will power to do it.




Vacation to New York City

Last week I posted that I was going to travel.

Surprise, surprise! I went to the Big Apple, the center of it all.

After going there, it sure was! I didn’t rent a car or stay in a

fancy hotel. This was truly a budget trip, and it was amazing.

I enjoyed the challenge of finding budget-friendly alternatives

to travel.  I hope to do more again in the future, maybe on Youtube?

Leave a comment below and tell me what you guys think.

Anyway, I decided to attend the Governor’s Ball music festival.

It had a great lineup like the Bleachers, Tove Lo, Chance the Rapper and more.

 I was super pumped. Big musicians like that don’t perform where

I live. So I bought my ticket and off I went!

 In the light of everything that happened in Manchester,

you may be hesitant to be a solo traveler. But we can not

fear life.The night before I was so stressed. I did not start packing nor did I know how

to navigate the city. I went anyway, my stomach cramped and I couldn’t

stop fidgeting. (BTW this is my first time going to NYC and traveling solo)

I pushed on anyway even though every thought in my mind said ‘turn back,’

 ‘are you crazy?’, ‘It’s not safe, it’s not familiar.’

I needed this trip because I  was in a rut. I needed to break

free of the monotony of my life. The same places, the same people, day after day

I was sick of it.

I believe that new experiences, meeting new people are the purpose of life.

We are meant to connect.

So I went forward. I pushed past all the doubts and after it all, I’ve become

a better person.

I hope my trip insipres you to do some solo travel of your own.

In the next couple of posts, I’ll explain how I traveled on

a budget.