I recently read an article by Valarie Stephens, self-proclaimed introvert. In her article, she described herself as an introvert that happened to be black, and that is how I would describe myself. I am an introvert that is black. Often times I feel like being a black female overshadows my actual personality. It’s shallow that people cannot look past my skin, and get to know ME.
Black women have the worst stereotypes out of any race. We are over-sexualized in music videos or dismissed as loud mouth baby mama. There is no in between. It saddens me that people find me strange or unique for acting the way I do. I know for a fact there are many black and minority women out there like me. We like coffee, Kawaii things, pop music and being alone.
I hope this doesn’t get dusted under the rug. If it does I want to say, I here weird and never going to change.
Today a few lucky cities will witness the Eclipse. Redmond, Knoxville, and Charleston.
I have composed a Hunger Games guide to surviving the Eclipse.
Limit Driving and Commuting During the Eclipse
With visitors coming from all over to witness the
eclipse driving and normal everyday activities will
be difficult. Visibility will be somewhat limited,imagine
a cloudy day when it’s overcast.
Everyone should be cautious of the sudden change and
hold off on any activities until it is clear
No Selfies Please
The great Neil deGrasse has said
“Don’t film the Eclipse, experience it.”
It has been verified by NASA that using
your camera or phone may damage the lens
unless you have a UV protectant to cover it.
Nor can you view the eclipse through your
Protect Your Eyes
The most important organ by far. If you
decide to view the event make sure you
protect and cover your eyes. The solar
glasses are probably sold out everywhere,
but if you can snag a pair from a friend or
go to a viewing party that provides
them you’ll be covered.
How will you view the Eclipse. Comment down below.
1. Shoe’s Have To Be Painful To Be Sexy
If shoes are painful for you to wear either you’re wearing them wrong or have the wrong size.
Many Shoe Gurus have mastered the art of walking in heels. Shoe Gurus can make high heels like your walking on air.
2. Wear Shoes That Attract The Attention of Men
We all have different motivations for selecting the clothes and shoes we wear. We select clothes and shoes to express our unique identity. While men tend to
be attracted to long
legs, that usually is not the intention of buying heels. When you wear a pair of heels you feel above it all, like you’re a goddess or queen.
3. Flat Shoes Are For Quitters
While binge watching a 30 Rock, I remember the episode when Jack found out Avery was pregnant with his baby. Avery, like Jack, is a go-getter. Anything less than perfection isn’t good enough for her and that’s why Jack fell in love with her. During her pregnancy Jack said “And she always wears high heels, because, according to her,flats are for quitters.”
I’m not recommending that you wear during your pregnancy. Flats are a great option. Many flats come in a great pattern while being stylish. I personally prefer flats over heels. Flats and sneakers are for those busy days when you need to get stuff DONE.
4. Comfort and Style are Mutually Exclusive
This is a major myth. Like Myth number #1 shoes can be comfortable and fun. Just like anything you purchase, you examine and try it out. I love buying shoes online but make sure that the website has a flexible return policy.
5. All Shoes Are The Same
It is easy to believe that all online shoes are the same. If your new to online shopping it’s easy to believe but if you’re a pro like me find unique shoes is a breeze. I can confidently say you can find any shoe, from any brand, from any time period, online. it just takes a little research.
What do you guys think? Leave a comment below
I posted a picture today of this adorable artist
Grace Vanderwaal. Grace Vanderwaal
was on America’s Got Talent when she revealed to the world her majestic voice. After America’s Got Talent, Grace has sold out nearly every show.
Grace has the voice of an old Blues singer. She is only 13 and still has a lot of maturing to do as an artist. She possesses the talent needed to make her a Billboard Top Artist but often with fame at a young age, addiction becomes a problem. I hope this doesn’t happen to her.
Grace a talented young girl from Kansas thrown into the limelight by a talent show. That would be a movie I’d watch!
My second most recent post was about my
FAVORITE pair of sunglasses. I got these sunglasses from LOFT not too long ago. There like a rose-mirrored tint. I was going to the grocery store for sweet potatoes and wanted to take a selfie. They just scream fabulous every time I put them on.
I love Instagram because you can say a million thing with a picture. My account is
fairly new and goes along with my blog and personal life.
Don’t forget to follow me crissy.b723
Hey. How are you?
I hope all is well.Today’s post is just going to be super casual. As
casual as I can be at least. Are you guys watching GOT?
Game of Thrones is back on so all is well in the world.
I don’t know why I like that show so
much. Oh no I remember, freakin’ Jon Snow! That smexy
man. I haven’t caught up so it’s on my list of final to-dos
before the summer ends.
What are you guys listening to right now?
I’m listening to Halsey, Banks, and Ruth B. I
love soulful female artists.
They just transport you to the deepest part of
That’s just music in general.
What trends are you guys wearing? I am wearing
cropped legging and a t-shirt. It has been unbearably hot
here. I really want to buy a pair of culottes but I’m this weird
height between short and average. It’s like a hit or miss with
pants. So I always need to try them on. The culottes I tried
were like ankle length and that’s not how they’re supposed to
be worn. 😦 I think I’m going to have to make my own.
Have you guys tried anything new? Have you tried grocery
delivery? I don’t try new things unless I get a positive testimonial
from my friends or family.
I’m looking into Thrive, let me know if you’ve tried it. I would
love to hear about it.
When I heard she was in a violent relationship with Chris Brown it saddened me. She’s so beautiful and talented, how could that happen to her? How could that happen to anyone. Domestic violence is a real issue, many women don’t walk away from. It’s tragic to say that Rihanna was lucky to walk away with just bruises. No one deserves that ever!
Rihanna went dark for a couple of years with Good Girl Gone Bad and Rated R.
She needed to break down to repair herself. Who are you after something like that? Going dark was her way of coping. It took a couple a years for her to find herself again. She was no longer the
sexy island girl but a unstoppable pop icon that doesn’t give a f**k.
I admire her for that. You can follow her on Instagram and see her as an loving aunt to a fashion icon. I love how she can go from a punk-rocker with green hair to a pink princess on the red carpet. I admire her for her strength in her sexuality. Her ability to love again and her overall love for her fans.
Two years ago this month I was inspired to start this blog. While it has a long way to go, I’m happy to say I’m very proud of it. This month Google renewed my blog name thebarefootqueen.com.
I don’t know what it is about sentimental moments but I don’t realize how how magical they were until it’s over. Let me start from the beginning…
Why thebarefootqueen Name?
I image thebarefootqueen as a loving, free spirited leader. She has a bohemian style and
flowers in her hair. She sleeps by the sun and lives by the moon. She fearless yet vulnerable, because vulnerability is strength. She is the embodiment of who I want to be.
What Will Happen Over the Next Two Years?
The next two years you guys are going to see a lot more of me. I plan on starting a YouTube channel and doing vlog, GRWM, OOTD, travel videos are much more. I find myself happiest when I am creating. I remember taking a drawing 101 class in college and everyday I was excited to go. I feel the same way when posting.
Where Do We Fit In?
You guys are important to me. While we are a small group, we are a strong group. I can truly say I’ve gotten nothing but positivity and inspiration from you guys. I hope to grow our group and get a conversation going. I enjoy hearing feedback, comments, praise, so lets start chatting!
I hate trends. Every year something new, has everyone running to the nearest Forever 21. I feel like summer months bring out the most trends. The boho festival girls, rave girls, the Kim K look-a-likes. I cannot lie, I have been a victim of trends. I remember in high school Good Charlotte, and Green Day was super popular. My parents were traditional and won’t let me wear the ripped jeans and band tees my friends had. They did let me wear that little wrist sweatband with the band’s logo on it. It’s all about the small wins.
I’m thankful to my parents for setting those boundaries. When I look back in my
yearbook I think ‘gosh…how did we think that was cool?’ Thanks to my parents I appreciate quality clothes and I am particular on what I choose to buy. I try to buy clothes that are well-made, ethically made, sustainability made, self-made or second hand. We have a responsibility as fashionistas to buy products that support our environment.
Fast fashion contributes to landfills and CO2 in our atmosphere. Synthetic fibers like nylon, polyester, and acrylic (looking at you Forever 21) take thousands of years to break down. Let me finish by saying Forever 21 is not the enemy. The fast-paced, consumer-driven economy we live in is. The next time you shop think about how often will you wear it, what is it made of, and who you can give it to after you’re done.
Living with roommates has made it possible to live in the ever increasing rental market. A one bedroom in San Francisco is 4,000 dollars. The issue comes in with technology jobs and creative jobs moving to the cities. It seems like a hard compromise but roommates may be the answer. Splitting utilities and rent with 3 to 4 other people relieves the financial stress.
Sharing and Caring
I’ve had roommates that are prepared for the apocalypse. They had top of the line pots and pans, spices, a panini maker, a mattress frame and stockpile of food. These roommates are the best because they are so prepared. When you move around a lot, like me, you lose stuff. So these roommates help fill in the gap until you can reset yourself.
The best thing about having roommates is you’re likely to have a friend. Living in the same space brings people together. It’s nice to come home to someone you can rant to about that bit– at work or that cute guy at your regular coffee place.
Everyone has a different interpretation of cleanliness. Some people are less clean than others.
I have had many roommates fight over dirty dishes and clothes left in the washer. My advice to anyone with roommates is as soon as you use it, clean it. There will be no issue if you clean up imminently after yourself.
Lack of Privacy
The living room, kitchen, and bathrooms are shared in my apartment so there’s not much privacy.
I try to a long take relaxing shower but that’s not always possible. Nothing pulls you out of your Zen more than your roommate shaking the door knob. It’s an unspoken rule that if you’re going to use any shared area, to use it quickly.
Over All Bad Roommates
I have had more than my fair share of bad roommates. I had roommates that lacked common courtesy to disgusting human beings. One of my roommates shed all the time. I go into the bathroom and saw clumps of her hair on the shower walls and in the drain. It was gross, I always take a shower before her so I didn’t have to see that.
What’s the worst roommate experience you’ve had? What’s the best? Let’s talk below.