People Projecting Their Self Limiting Beliefs On Me

I would like to apologize first for the long title. This title came to me when I was reflecting this morning. The reason I was reflecting was my energy has been off. I feel negative, gross and dragged down. One of these reasons could be my job. I have been working nonstop and sometimes not with the best people. The energy they project on me is sometimes negative.

If you ever meet me I’m a happy, bubbly person. People ask me all the time “how are you so cheerful?” It’s easier to be cheerful than you think. I chose to be happy. Everything is so much more difficult when you’re in a bad mood. Most days I’m ‘comme ci  comme ca,’ but when I feel something eating at me I go into investigative mode. meditation-1384758_960_720

I decided to write down everything that was bothering me. After I write down all my fears, feelings and emotions I reread it and put it away. I have to do this every week otherwise my feeling would eat at me.

The people I interact with let these emotions manifest in their everyday lives. When I meet them it like “Whoa! Don’t bring that energy here buddy. My space is sacred!” I’m very empathic and can feel people’s emotions.

I don’t have a solution for eliminating these negative people. The only advice I can give is to keep yourself full. Keep your space sacred and distance yourself from them.


The Lasting Influences of Fredia Kahlo

It was a Friday night and I was looking for a feel-good movie to watch on Netflix. One of my suggested movies was Coco. I’ve only heard great things about the movie so I pressed play. Coco was a lovely, enchanting movie, briefly in the movie you see Fredia Kahlo. Kahlo is in her studio swaying her hips around as she paints herself. She paints herself, puts on a play about herself and talks about herself!

I can’t help but think the real Kahlo would be disappointed.  They depicted her as a self-


absorbed artist. Kahlo’s story begins when she got into an accident that nearly paralyzed and caused her to lose her right leg.  She spent most of her time immobile and with herself.  Kalho is quoted as saying “I paint self-portraits because I am so often alone because I am the person I know best.”

Kahlo has influenced women, surreal artist and Hispanic culture for years. Her fearless approach to fashion, love, life, and death is so transparent. Frida wore vibrant bright skirts and dresses. She sometimes wore a pants-suit. She expressed herself in fashion and art.

Kahlo loved many people in her life, men and women. Her greatest love was Diego. She has said “I love you more than my own skin and even though you don’t love me the same way, you love me anyways, don’t you? And if you don’t, I’ll always have the hope that you do, and I’m satisfied with that. Love me a little. I adore you.” Diego loved Frida for her insatiable spirit and talent.


Her art often represented her struggles. She tried many times to conceive children but it was impossible because of her accident. The infidelity of her husband caused her grief. The constant pain she was in because of her accident made it difficult to get around. Despite it all, she painted and shared her story with us. Which is selfless.

There are many movies and exhibits that cover the real life of Frida Kahlo. A good place to start is the movie with Salma Hayek called Frida.  She was an artist before her time.

Funny Tinder Profiles

I’ve seen my fair share of creative tinder profiles. Just like dating, tinder can be a bit surprising.

Dylan profile is straight to the point on what he can offer. His love for dogs is admirable but Diner, Dives and Drive-In is not documentary quality.



Jackson used Tinder as a platform for marketing which is a great idea. But women love confidence. Sorry.


Vince’s profile is my favorite. He seems quirky and starts out with a funny joke.


What’s your most interesting Tinder Date? Comment below!

Modern Day Dating | don’t be immature

no-988481_960_720The most annoying thing a person can do is be immature. I am not the refined, high society princess myself but please don’t be immature. Let me explain. There’s a phase were you realize a guy (or girl) is kind of cute. You investigate and see who this person is. This phase can be Facebook stalking, asking around,observing them.

When I see you act immaturely it turns me off. There’s something unattractive about a manchild. A person can be imperfect that’s fine like playing video games or an obsession with Star Trek. A manchild is a man that doesn’t know how to function in society. The way you talk to people, even people beneath you, is a reflection of your character. The ambitions you have makes

the man.

The work he does to chase those dreams is what makes him attractive. To all the people out there here’s some advice;

Speak Kindly and Truthfully

Act Ambitiously

Make me laugh

Short and sweet.What do you guys think? Leave a comment below.

the man.

The work he does to chase those dreams is what makes him attractive. To all the people out there here’s some advice;

Speak Kindly and Truthfully

Act Ambitiously

Make me laugh

Short and sweet.What do you guys think? Leave a comment below.

Response: What It Means To Be A Black Female Introvert

I recently read an article by Valarie Stephens, self-proclaimed introvert. In her article, she described herself as an introvert that happened to be black, and that is how I would describe myself. I am an introvert that is black. Often times I feel like being a black female overshadows my actual personality. It’s shallow that people cannot look past my skin, and get to know ME.

Black women have the worst stereotypes out of any race. We are over-sexualized in music videos or dismissed as loud mouth baby mama. There is no in between. It saddens me that people find me strange or unique for acting the way I do. I know for a fact there are many black and minority women out there like me. We like coffee, Kawaii things, pop music and being alone.

I hope this doesn’t get dusted under the rug. If it does I want to say, I here weird and never going to change.

My Unexpected Dream

I woke up from a good 8-hours of sleep and I recalled the strangest detail from my dream. I am a person that believes dreams can be interpreted and hold meaning, so this dream was strange. I hate it when you can’t remember the entire dream. It would help put it into context but…what can you do.

In the dream, I was looking down and saw a green snake. It wasn’t a huge snake. It was a small lime green color and was moving in a circle. I watched the snake move round and round until a bigger green snake came behind it and devoured it! I was shocked but I wasn’t scared. I woke up not knowing what this meant. 

While on my way to work I Googled “Dream meaning snake, eating another snake.” I found a couple threads here and there but nothing really made sense. A Reddit thread I found was kind of interesting;

“Actually, in my experience, the ouroboros is a good sign. It’s a symbol of personal transformation. What it means is the old you is used to create a new you.”–RadOwl

Ouroboros is from Egyptian Mythology. He represents an infinite cycle of recreation and destruction.

I didn’t completely trust his explanation.  

My culture has taught me that snakes are bad. Snakes should be avoided at all costs no matter how harmless they look. As a child, I grew up next to the woods and my parents were cautious when we played outside.

So I searched again, with my FAVORITE source Dreammoods. Dreammoods said;

To dream that a snake is eating another snake represents your drive and determination to succeed at whatever cost.

To me, this is the same thing RadOwl said. There is something changing in my life. I am growing and changing as well. 

My Work Aug 2017

It has been a long time since I’ve posted some artwork. Here you go!

I have to say I enjoy sharing my work with you guys, it encourages me to

create more.

This piece is about the passion of a new relationship. The top left is a soup cup that says ‘ be strong and love much.’ It’s placed over her eyes to represent a thought. She’s been hurt before and now she feels comfortable to love again. When I think of comfort I think of soup.

To the right is the solar eclipse that will take place on August 21. I’m super excited for that. I love major astronomical events.

In the mid-left you’ll see a girl biting her lip as her lover caresses her cheek. Whew that’s hot.

In the middle is a carnation. If you remember in middle school you could buy a carnation for your friends, or crush. Carnations to me have always symbolized an exciting, youthful love.

To the mid-right are mountains and GPS indicators. I love to travel. That will always be a major love in my life.

Toward the bottom is a cute little bird, just singing.

Have you posted any artwork lately? What do you think about the upcoming eclipse? Leave a comment below.

Do We Live In A Throw Away Society?

It’s an interesting question, that I don’t know the answer to. I only have my experiences to put forward a possible answer. I think we DO live in a throw away society. If something doesn’t work or loses it appeal, it is normal to replace it with something shiny and new.  We do this with electronics and relationships.

Our society is moving forward so fast that things lose their value quickly. The latest electronics to the latest clothes and relationships. You can see this attitude in the way we fill our environment with landfills, and the way we treat our older population. We dispose, and throw away.

I’m here to tell you that you can give anything more than one life. Resist the urge to ‘throw-it away.’

Those clothes in the back of your closet donate them to the Salvation Army.

Those old electronics sell them, have them refurbished and sold again.

Plastic! Forget it! Use glass, glass can be used over and over again.

And most importantly don’t forget about Grandma. She maybe feisty but she has knowledge and stories to share.

I find value and magic in old things. When I see an old t-shirt my mind fires up a way to repurpose it. Even when I look at an old building my inner Property Brothers comes out and starts making floor plans and setting a budget. Repurposing can be fun, it your open to it.

If you have time look-up Depression Era tips to frugal living. Frugal living can help you save money and teach you to be more self-sufficient.

Do you guys think we live in a throw-away society? Leave a comment below.

Modern Day Dating | the most boring post about love you’ll ever read

This is the most BORING article about love you’ll ever read, or maybe not.

Love is a unique experience for everyone.

What is love?


Love to me is a connection unbreakable by any circumstance. It let’s someone know that I’m here for you always regardless of what happens. I will be with you no matter what because I love you and we’re in this together.

Why Love?


Why not…

How to Love?


In order to love, you need to love yourself. Know your boundaries and know that the other person is not perfect and you aren’t either. If you know this, then let the love flow freely. Love your neighbor, love your dog, love the grocer down the street, just let it all out.

Who Do I Love?


I won’t tell…

Any advice about love? Leave a comment below