I recently read an article by Valarie Stephens, self-proclaimed introvert. In her article, she described herself as an introvert that happened to be black, and that is how I would describe myself. I am an introvert that is black. Often times I feel like being a black female overshadows my actual personality. It’s shallow that people cannot look past my skin, and get to know ME.
Black women have the worst stereotypes out of any race. We are over-sexualized in music videos or dismissed as loud mouth baby mama. There is no in between. It saddens me that people find me strange or unique for acting the way I do. I know for a fact there are many black and minority women out there like me. We like coffee, Kawaii things, pop music and being alone.
I hope this doesn’t get dusted under the rug. If it does I want to say, I here weird and never going to change.
I woke up from a good 8-hours of sleep and I recalled the strangest detail from my dream. I am a person that believes dreams can be interpreted and hold meaning, so this dream was strange. I hate it when you can’t remember the entire dream. It would help put it into context but…what can you do.
In the dream, I was looking down and saw a green snake. It wasn’t a huge snake. It was a small lime green color and was moving in a circle. I watched the snake move round and round until a bigger green snake came behind it and devoured it! I was shocked but I wasn’t scared. I woke up not knowing what this meant.
While on my way to work I Googled “Dream meaning snake, eating another snake.” I found a couple threads here and there but nothing really made sense. A Reddit thread I found was kind of interesting;
“Actually, in my experience, the ouroboros is a good sign. It’s a symbol of personal transformation. What it means is the old you is used to create a new you.”–RadOwl
Ouroboros is from Egyptian Mythology. He represents an infinite cycle of recreation and destruction.
I didn’t completely trust his explanation.
My culture has taught me that snakes are bad. Snakes should be avoided at all costs no matter how harmless they look. As a child, I grew up next to the woods and my parents were cautious when we played outside.
So I searched again, with my FAVORITE source Dreammoods. Dreammoods said;
To dream that a snake is eating another snake represents your drive and determination to succeed at whatever cost.
To me, this is the same thing RadOwl said. There is something changing in my life. I am growing and changing as well.
It has been a long time since I’ve posted some artwork. Here you go!
I have to say I enjoy sharing my work with you guys, it encourages me to
This piece is about the passion of a new relationship. The top left is a soup cup that says ‘ be strong and love much.’ It’s placed over her eyes to represent a thought. She’s been hurt before and now she feels comfortable to love again. When I think of comfort I think of soup.
To the right is the solar eclipse that will take place on August 21. I’m super excited for that. I love major astronomical events.
In the mid-left you’ll see a girl biting her lip as her lover caresses her cheek. Whew that’s hot.
In the middle is a carnation. If you remember in middle school you could buy a carnation for your friends, or crush. Carnations to me have always symbolized an exciting, youthful love.
To the mid-right are mountains and GPS indicators. I love to travel. That will always be a major love in my life.
Toward the bottom is a cute little bird, just singing.
Have you posted any artwork lately? What do you think about the upcoming eclipse? Leave a comment below.
It’s an interesting question, that I don’t know the answer to. I only have my experiences to put forward a possible answer. I think we DO live in a throw away society. If something doesn’t work or loses it appeal, it is normal to replace it with something shiny and new. We do this with electronics and relationships.
Our society is moving forward so fast that things lose their value quickly. The latest electronics to the latest clothes and relationships. You can see this attitude in the way we fill our environment with landfills, and the way we treat our older population. We dispose, and throw away.
I’m here to tell you that you can give anything more than one life. Resist the urge to ‘throw-it away.’
Those clothes in the back of your closet donate them to the Salvation Army.
Those old electronics sell them, have them refurbished and sold again.
Plastic! Forget it! Use glass, glass can be used over and over again.
And most importantly don’t forget about Grandma. She maybe feisty but she has knowledge and stories to share.
I find value and magic in old things. When I see an old t-shirt my mind fires up a way to repurpose it. Even when I look at an old building my inner Property Brothers comes out and starts making floor plans and setting a budget. Repurposing can be fun, it your open to it.
If you have time look-up Depression Era tips to frugal living. Frugal living can help you save money and teach you to be more self-sufficient.
Do you guys think we live in a throw-away society? Leave a comment below.
This is the most BORING article about love you’ll ever read, or maybe not.
Love is a unique experience for everyone.
What is love?
Love to me is a connection unbreakable by any circumstance. It let’s someone know that I’m here for you always regardless of what happens. I will be with you no matter what because I love you and we’re in this together.
How to Love?
In order to love, you need to love yourself. Know your boundaries and know that the other person is not perfect and you aren’t either. If you know this, then let the love flow freely. Love your neighbor, love your dog, love the grocer down the street, just let it all out.
Who Do I Love?
I won’t tell…
Any advice about love? Leave a comment below
I’ve been thinking about this for a while now. I’ve been thinking about where
I am and where I want to be. The things that caused me to change and mature.
I had a dream a couple nights ago of my wedding. I was dressed in white and we had
a giraffe in the church. The giraffe was trying to escape and I tried to catch it.
The giraffe broke free and ran out of the room. Then I woke up. Dreams are weird.
But when I interpret the dream this is what I found.
A giraffe represents welfare, happiness, the truth and possible dangers.
A wedding represents the merging of masculine and feminine.
A giraffe running away is avoidance of the truth.
There are many ways to interpret this dream but I see it as me needing to be more masculine. I needed to become more assertive in what I wanted.I’ve needed to become clearer on what I needed and expected.I’ve needed to ‘marry,’ these parts of my personality that I’ve avoided for so long.
No one is going to give you anything and for a long time I’ve avoided ruffling feathers for the sake of peace. The truth is asking for what you want and being assertive is not a bad thing. Asking for
what you want and expect helps avoids
problems down the road.
I have always interpreted my dreams. Especially in times of stress, I’ve noticed my dreams become more vivid
to the point of me talking in my sleep.
My advice for you guys is to be open to your subconscious. It often reveals your true feelings and fears.
What’s the weirdest dream you guys had?
Hey everyone! This is a quick check-in on OUR New Year’s resolutions.
We are passing the 6-month mark and now it’s game time. If you haven’t
kept up with your goals it’s not too late!
1. Reevaluate Your Failures
I never look at failures as failures. To be successful you must look
at failures as lessons. In those lessons you can reevaluate you goals.
January apply for Study Abroad Scholarships–Completed but did not receive the scholarship instead I went to NYC
February: Update Portfolio–Somewhat, I post quick sketches on my Instagram
March: Write everyday– Somewhat, I have kept up with my blog MW. Thank you for reading every week!
2. Set New Goals
It is important to forgive yourself. It’s only failure when you quit completely. Setting new goals can make your New Year’s Resolutions feel fresh. Posting your resolution somewhere where
you can see it everyday can also help. By looking at your goal everyday you subconciously
set the path to your goal.
July: Get Certification
August: Post First YouTube Video
September: Interview for Out-of-State Jobs
3. Deadlines, Deadlines, Deadlines.
There’s no anchor to keeping your goal unless you have a
deadline. A deadline give you a finishline to visualize. I set a couple of goals each month and
the end of the month is the deadline. Some goals can take a week, or 3 months but set a date.
4. Remember Your Mission
Your mission is what you consider to be your life’s purpose. Your goals should always be in
alignment with your mission. If you haven’t already, sit down and write a sentence, no more than three about what your purpose is here. Below I have listed mine;
My mission is to live and work creatively in art, fashion, film making, teaching, and philanthropy.
5. Visualize the End Result
Lastly visualize you have already achieved your goal. It will help you when you
don’t feel like working out that day, or make excuses for not completing your
goal. Imagine the end so you can increase your will power to do it.
There’s something therapeutic about a good break-up song. A song can speak to your soul and mend a broken heart. Below I have listed my favorite break-up songs.
In the lyrics, Michelle says ‘I’m not giving in this time.’ This perfectly explains giving your all to someone that does not appreciate you. In the video, she pawns her wedding ring and buys a car. She is in complete freedom to love herself.
The Airborne Toxic Event
The song is very complex. You can feel the emotions of loss, obsession, desire, and desperation. I chose this song because breaking up isn’t easy. You’re going through a wide range of emotions. The point is you’re strong and this point of your life has passed.
After a couple weeks you begin to remember what a jerk he was. You remember that you deserve someone much better! He wasn’t the one you wanted, no!
It’s important to remember self-care after a break-up. It’s easy to fall into bad eating habits and forgetting to exercise. You begin to look like a zombie but remember you’re a goddess. Treat yourself like one!
You thought I crumble? You thought I lay down and die? Oh, not I !! After a breakup you become stronger. With every defeat, there is a lesson. Now you are prepared to go forward and make better choices in you love life. Go!
While reflecting over the last couple of weeks I realized long distance is not for me.
In New York, I briefly met someone, Jay. He was a bassist, tall tan and handsome. I didn’t go to
New York looking for anyone but I was still open to the possibility.
The trip to New York was only for a week and I knew that. We started texting back and forth, the conversation was easy and exciting. The day came when I had to leave and I said nothing about where I was from. We continued to text when he said; ‘Looking at your profile and it says your 600
miles away lol.’
I was 600 miles away, and I wouldn’t come back until the winter. I confessed and have not heard from him since. The truth is I am a little hurt but not surprised. Long distance is not for everyone. I don’t think it’s for me either. Long distance requires MORE commitment, more communication, and appreciation.
I know for a fact I am not the best at communication. I assume that people know what I am thinking.
Things like assuming can kill a long distance relationship. I don’t think we were looking for anything serious. This guy ghosted on me so I know he wasn’t ready. As I go through the reasons why this didn’t work, I know the one for me is out there somewhere probably getting his heart broken too. It’s just a matter of time.
What do you think of long distance relationships? Are you in one?